Anxiety overshadows every area of your life.Not only do you wake up to waves of dread every morning …
When you go to work you feel like no one likes you …
You feel resentful of those who seem to have it so easy …
To top it all off, you’re exhausted by the constant aches and pains and lack of sleep!
So, you’ve taken the bull by the horns.
You decided that you’re not going to sit around and let the anxiety get the better of you.
You developed some ways to manage and cope with these terrible symptoms.
You feel pretty happy about it—they seem like good strategies and you are very dedicated to doing them every day.
The problem is: YOUR ANXIETY IS WORSE THAN EVER
WAKE UP CALL: These strategies are blocking you from healing your anxiety.
How? Because you are creating habits that pull you away from healing the root cause.
The root cause is the central limiting belief, thought pattern, habit, childhood wound and/or family lineage conditioning that built the container for the anxiety to manifest.
If you aren’t dealing with the root cause, you are chasing your tail and losing the time you could have being anxiety free.
As an International Medical Intuitive Healer, I’ve overcome my own chronic anxiety, IBS and skin issues at the very root cause. I now dedicate my life and soul purpose to helping you find a way out of the experience so you can be at peace with yourself. So, you can finally feel at home.
To really help you and illustrate what I mean, I’ve created a list of the FIVE SURPRISING BLOCKS THAT ACTUALLY LEAD YOU AWAY FROM FINDING THE ROOT CAUSE OF YOUR ANXIETY (and effective strategies you can do instead):
- You like to be productive
As a Type A personality (which I am through and through), I understand that this is an especially difficult pattern to overcome. You need to really be honest with yourself: are you being productive or are you are avoiding feeling or knowing something? When we take the time to do nothing and throw out the construct of being useful, feelings, awareness and insight come to the surface. These are your clues to the root cause of your anxiety. Your body and your Higher Self will waste no time giving you the clarity you need.
What to do instead: Schedule a time at least once per day to sit for 10 minutes and do absolutely nothing. You can close your eyes, hold a mug of tea and stare out the window. This is your nothing time. If you have trouble with this then label it as “By doing nothing I am getting closer to healing my anxiety. This is my way of being productive right now.”
- You always look at the bright side
This pattern is especially damaging. If you always look at the bright side, your wounded aspects feel ignored and mistreated. Being positive can be another avoidance tactic to stay away from the root cause of your anxiety. What if you don’t feel positive and you ignore it? What will happen? These feelings will go deeper underground into your psyche and resurface as a surge of anxiety. We become anxious when we are trying to control or push painful experiences and feelings away. It is a valuable signal that we have been ignoring our true feelings if we only look at the bright side.
What to do instead: Do an honest journal entry about how you feel. Free flow write for at least 20 minutes without stopping or censoring any words (no matter how shocking they may be!). Use all the words that feel uncomfortable. The more your mind tells you what a terrible person you are for even feeling this way, the closer you are to hitting your emotional release. At the end of the entry, thank yourself for showing up and being real. You’ll be amazed at how relieved you feel. Repeat this 1-2 times per week to get to the deepest core of your feelings.
- You love to set goals and achieve them
Goals themselves are not the problem. I encourage you to have goals and dreams and to go after them. The thing to watch out for is when you jump from one goal to the next to the next. If we don’t pause and celebrate how far we’ve come, we never feel like we’re good enough. We also don’t feel like we’ve changed. And this creates more anxiety. I guarantee that you’ll be very surprised when you take the time to see how much you’ve actually changed. When you acknowledge your success, you’ll feel more confident and release the need to pressure yourself into another goal right away.
What to do instead:
Write out a comparison to where you were a year ago with your anxiety and trigger situations. On a piece of paper create three different sections: work, relationships and health. Jot down what you were feeling/experiencing then and how you are feeling now for each section. Be as detailed as possible. Then do something to celebrate how far you’ve come!
- You are humble
As someone who suffered from anxiety for over 25 years, I had trouble feeling good about myself. I felt less than and incapable of doing the simplest things. I found a way to reframe this low self-esteem in a shroud of false humility. It felt better to say: “I’m a good person and good people don’t draw attention to themselves. I don’t brag or talk about myself because that would mean I’m arrogant. I’m a nice, humble person.” The reality was that I felt worthless. Once I healed the wounds that made me feel terrible about myself, I didn’t want to be “humble” anymore. I wanted to talk about the amazing things I could do. Being a good person does not mean hiding your awesomeness!
What to do instead:
Write down 10 beautiful qualities and traits about yourself. If you have trouble with this exercise, think of the compliments you’ve received from others over the years. They are reflecting your essence back to you. It’s your job to accept and receive your UNLIMITED GREATNESS with open arms: that is true humility.
- You dedicate yourself to your loved ones
When we make our lives about others to the point of ignoring our own needs and wants, we are doing the world a great disservice. You are depriving others of your greatest self. You are keeping your true potential hidden and dormant. Others who would be inspired and transformed from your presence will miss that gift. Sacrificing your life and health to serve others is an act of self-abuse. You will not get to the root cause of your own suffering if you make your life all about others. I’m not talking about ignoring the needs of others, I’m talking about stopping the destructive pattern of ignoring your own needs. Your loved ones will benefit greatly from your own wholeness and vitality and inner peace. Ten fold.
What to do instead:
Take note of all the things you like to do for others. Now pick two of those things and do them for yourself once a week. Book 1:1 time for yourself and do those acts of service for you. This will help you get to know your needs better (or for the first time) so you can truly heal.
Comment below: Which number resonates the most with you or Which one was the most surprising to you? What are you going to do today to start healing your anxiety?